As the head of Goop.com , Gwyneth Paltrow hasn’t been shy about tackling extremely personal and sensitive topics relating to anatomy and sex. Gwyneth Paltrow has been the world’s most outspoken champion of ‘vaginal steaming’. She’s featured a $15,000 golden sex toy after claiming it’s necessary to achieve maximum pleasure. In her latest foray into the hard-hitting editorial world of funky butt loving, Gwyneth’s Goop.com has enlisted the help of a doctor to write up a handy dandy guide to anal sex . As you can imagine, there are some pretty choice excerpts to be found amongst this guide to playing in the mud. The article starts off by quoting a statistic about how 30-40% of heterosexual men and women have experimented with anal sex . It then dives right into the deep end of Brown Town with a Q&A from Paul Joannides, Psy.D, a research psychoanalyst and author who has written the bible on having sex ( The Guide to Getting it On! , $5 on Amazon ). In the ‘Guide to Anal Sex’ on Goop , the doctor talks about where/when heterosexual anal sex started, why it’s popular, and how it differs from watching porn. Here are some excerpts from that Q&A which you can read in full over on Goop.com by following the link below:
Question: When did heterosexual anal start to become a thing?
Answer: In the ’80s, I remember hearing from a friend that he had a videotape of anal porn. This seemed shocking at the time. (This was pre-Netflix: Everything was on videotape, from porn to Disney movies to highlights from the Olympics. Video rental stores were everywhere.) I’m not sure there are too many middle schoolers today who would be shocked or even surprised to watch anal sex on Pornhub or Xhamster.
Since porn became as easy to access as YouTube, porn producers have had to fight for clicks, and so porn has become more extreme. I’d say that by 2005, porn had totally blurred the distinction between a woman’s anus and vagina. This wasn’t because women were begging their lovers for anal, it’s because porn producers were afraid you’d click on someone else’s porn if they weren’t upping the ante in terms of shock value. via
Seems like anal was around loonnnnggg before the 80’s as there is plenty of documentation that the Romans were engaging in bountiful butt loving, but I’ll take the doctor’s word for it. Moving on, the doctor jumps into how anal sex should actually take place in the bedroom versus what we’re all accustomed to seeing in porn.
Question: How should we modify the anal sex we see modeled in porn to best suit an in-real-life couple?
Answer: Understand that the way you see anal sex portrayed in porn is about as real as how they drive cars in the The Fast and the Furious. The anus isn’t designed to have a penis thrust up it; nature did not spec it to handle incoming, as she did with the vagina. Even the way the rectum curves shortly after the opening tells us we need to make a lot of adjustments for anal to feel good. And the two sets of sphincter muscles that nature placed around the opening of the anus are there for one thing: to help humans to maintain their dignity when in crowded spaces (to keep poop from dropping out). Because they’re designed that way, there’s an automatic reflex if you push against them from the outside.
So one of the first things a woman or man needs to do if they want to be on the receiving end of anal sex is to teach their sphincter muscles to relax enough that a penis can get past their gates. This takes a lot of practice.
Also, unlike the vagina, the anus provides no lubrication. Again, this is because the anus was not designed for incoming objects. So in addition to teaching the sphincters to relax, and in addition to getting the angle right so you don’t poke the receiver in the wall of the rectum, you need to use lots of lube.
They show none of this in porn. Nor do they show communication, feedback, or trust. Couples who do not have excellent sexual communication, who don’t freely give and receive feedback about what feels good and what doesn’t, and who don’t have a high level of trust should not be having anal sex. via
It doesn’t stop there, though, and the doctor goes on to talk about the best ways to use lube/condoms when engaging in heterosexual anal sex. He discusses the longterm effects of funky butt loving, and the best practices for keeping a woman’s o-ring intact. Frankly, this is 99.99% more informative than I ever expected from Goop and after reading the full article I left feeling like I’d actually learned something. So, if you want to read the full ‘ Guide to Anal Sex ‘ from Gwyneth Paltrow’s website just follow that link!