Gwyneth Montenegro teaches women how to “understand” men and get the most out of their relationships. Which makes sense since she knows men inside and out since in her former profession as a prostitute she had sex with more than 10,000 men. Gwyneth started working in a brothel at age 21 and kept working in the sex industry for 12 years. Now 39-years-old, Montenegro reveals the secrets of being a prostitute, something she says she doesn’t regret but is happy she is out of the business. News.com.au interviewed Montenegro and asked her how she first started as a sex worker. “I never wanted to get into the sex industry in the first place. I was 18, I went out to a nightclub and my drink was spiked and I got taken away and gang-raped by 6-8 men — I can’t remember exactly how many because I was so out of it. It kind of changed my opinion about myself. I felt I wasn’t worthy anymore, that I wasn’t good enough. I came from a Christian family and I was saving myself for marriage and then I got raped. So I went the other way … I was very promiscuous. I ended up in the table top dancing industry when I was 19.” After becoming a stripper, she thought she “already crossed the line” so she became a prostitute. “It was totally surreal. Once you’ve been paid for sex once, you can’t take that back. I just found I was able to compartmentalize and switch my feelings off, because I already felt dirty.” Montenegro charged $500-$1000 an hour, depending on the services provided. She said “the money was really good and the money is what kept me in the industry for all those years. I don’t recommend anyone do it.” When asked if anyone of her clients asked for anything really crazy she said it was only a small percentage of men who wanted hardcore kinky sex. She revealed that many men wanted companionship as well as sex:
“It’s more than just sex. There’s always a psychological motivation for sex, it’s not just a physical urge. A lot of the clients I would see would be an hour plus and I mean sure, they wanted the sex, but a big part of my job was just talking. There was always some sort of psychological game from it. There was always a feeling of … you could sort of tell they felt more validated as a man or some of them felt like ‘I can control you’. They’d walk out with this strut.”
Gwyneth unveiled the main reasons why men turn to sex workers:
“Because that man feels emasculated in his relationship, he wants to feel masculine again. They’re seeking validity for their virility. Virility is very important to men. There’s also a group of men who want to play the game. They get an intense delight out of controlling women. They get more of a kick out of feeling like they control you, than they do off the actual sex. So a lot of it is from a psychological motivation.”
She believes that feminism plays a part in emasculating men. Read the entire interview at News.com.au .